on Self-realization

Notes on Self-realization in the light of depth psychology … by Jenna Lilla Phd

Path of Soul: life aims toward the ‘unassimilable’

In Freud’s earliest work titled ‘A Project for a Scientific Psychology,’ Freud’ speaks of the “unassimilable portion, the thing” in realtionship to infant development. Freud saw that the from birth the ego is in relationship to the unassimilable nature of being (also known as Das Ding p.423). For Freud, this ‘thing’ is the ‘unassimilable portion’ of the mother’s breast, experienced when the infant is nursing.

Here is Freud’s story: the infant looks at the breast straight on and sees a nipple. Then, the infant looks at the breast from the side and sees the side profile of the nipple. Then, the infant looks from another side and sees, yet again, another image of the breast and nipple. These images of the breast and nipple are each different; calling on the psyche to integrate them into one whole object representation of the mother as other.

This integration of multiple perspectives is a very difficult task, in part because of the intensity of the wish for the breast. The ego develops in relation to what can be ‘known’ from experience, as ‘attributes’ and internal object representations. But there is always an ‘unassimilable portion, the thing.’

For Freud, the ‘unassimilable’ is the fundamental ‘thing’ that we each must come to terms with. In many ways working through this problem seems to have been his own ‘analysis,’ setting the stage for his subsequent work. Jacques Lacan took up this drive to know, as did Melanie Klein, and Wilfred Bion, each in their own unique way. One could say that Hegel and Kant influenced them all. Nonetheless, Carl Jung too spirals around the ‘unassimilable.’

Right from the beginning of Symbols of Transformation, Carl Jung address the ‘unknown’ and the ‘hidden’ (CW 5, para. 4- 5) Jung brings insight to the ‘unassimilable’ by saying that it is ‘assimilable,’ to some degree. Or at least that the instincts of the living soul, if healthy, guide us on a journey toward greater and greater assimilation of the ‘unassimilable.’  The life instincts of the soul are toward greater realization, both as object realization and Self-realization.

Our instinctual, libidinal nature drives us to integrate opposing views of the object, taking us into deeper and deeper levels of self/other integration. The soul’s instinct is that of ‘Affirmation—uniting—Eros.’ We seek to know the other and in doing so hold the potential to realize the nature of the Self. The highest realization is Self-realization: a knowing of the unknown, a seeing of the unseen. This is the place and space of uniting self and object representation: what is ‘unassimilable’ in the other is the ‘unassimilable’ in me.

Life is determined by modes and forms of such seeking of realization. A life is the manifestation of a particular way a being seeks and strives toward a realization of the nature of the ‘unassimilable.’ Life seeks fulfillment, a goal:

“Life is teleology par excellence; it is the intrinsic striving towards a goal, and the living organism is a system of directed aims which seek to fulfill themselves.” (Carl Jung, CW 8, par. 798)

The word teleology is from Greek telos ‘end’ + -logia. The word denotes a branch of philosophy that deals with the ‘ends’ or a final cause. Living souls seek ‘to fulfill themselves.’ Jung spoke periodically about Teleology. In the Notes of the Seminar Given in 1925, Jung speaks in detail about his views on teleology. Here, Jung is expressing an insight into teleology in terms of the direction and purpose of libido. I will quote the paragraph in full:

“The expression ‘ambitendency’ is a way of denominating the contradictory nature of energy. There is no potential without opposites, and therefore one has ambitendency… The libido [has] direction, and it can be said of any function that it has a purposive nature.  Of course, the well-known prejudice against this viewpoint that has existed in biology has to do with the confusion of teleology with purpose. Teleology says there is an aim toward which everything is tending, but such an aim could not exist without presupposing a mind that is leading us to a definite goal, an untenable viewpoint for us. However, processes can show purposive character without having to do with a preconceived goal, and all biological processes are purposive. The essence of the nervous system is purposive since it acts like a central telegraph office for coordinating all parts of the body. All the suitable nervous reflexes are gathered in the brain. Coming back to the original point about ambitendency. Energy is not split in itself, it is the pairs of opposites and also undivided–in other words, it presents a paradox” (p. 86).

Our instincts, in the form of libido, appear to have a somewhat purposive character. This purposive character is expressed through the ambitendency of the libidinal energy, always expressing itself in archetypal pairs of opposites. The larger movement of libido is dialectically integrating though this ambitendency, as it seeks to assimilate the ‘unassimilable’.

The dialectical movements of psychic life involves a process in which opposites integrate into new syntheses. Upon integration a horizon of knowing emerges, bringing with it new oppositions. We seek to assimilate the unassimilable. The unassimilable is both ‘the thing’ that gives rise to a primordial tension, as well as a horizon toward which we are instinctively drawn.

In spiritual terms, we are driven toward the ‘unassimilable’ unknown of God. The ‘unassimilable is expressed in the first relations to the personal Mother and in the archetypal mother as well: in the empty space off the primordial womb. In psychoanalytic terms, we are perturbed and stimulated by the ‘unassimilable’ in the parental couple.

Jung says:

…..instinct is purposive.  It works properly only under certain conditions, and as soon as it gets out of tune with these conditions it threatens the destruction of the species. (p. 86)

The soul seeks its natural path, a path towards creative dialectical integration, always aiming toward the ‘unassimilable portion’. The integration of opposites allows us to hold more complex awareness through dialectical modes of thinking. It is the creative synthesis through transformation of symbols that is so significant for both the living soul and our species at large. With this we are able to face and integrate the most complex tasks and tensions of being human, such as the ones that we are now facing as a collective culture. This capacity for assimilation and integration of the unknown is fundamentally a capacity of the living soul.

Analytical Psychology: Notes of the Seminar Given in 1925 by C.G. Jung,
edited by William McGuire

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14 comments on “Path of Soul: life aims toward the ‘unassimilable’

  1. Lewis Lafontaine
    January 30, 2014

    Yet another excellent posting.

    I do believe your blog is consistently the best blog on Dr. Jung’s work including my own humble blog which is filled with information but lacks your impeccable organization and aesthetic charm.

    • Jenna Lilla
      January 30, 2014

      Thank you for your kind response. I appreciate all of the time and attention you have given to Jung’s work as well. I first came across your blog a while back when I was searching for a particular quote on Jung… There you were, providing a service and gift to those who admire Jung. I look forward to a continuing conversation.

  2. lindalitebeing
    January 30, 2014

    Hello Jenna,
    I am very happy you have begun posting again so that I can say hello and thank you for following my blog. Also to share that I am in awe of your writing and have begun following you as well! I am very influenced by Jung, especially as an Astrologer and therapist/dream-worker, but must admit that I gain clearer understanding of his works via the skillful interpretation of others.

    I look forward to you future posts,

    in light,

    • Jenna Lilla
      January 30, 2014

      Hello Lovely Linda Light Being,
      Yes indeed, I found your blog recently. I was visiting a Jungian oriented blog and saw your comment. I was touched by the sweetness of both your comment and your blog: you are clearly spreading joy in the world. Thank you for visiting me here on my blog, and for leaving a comment. I hope to hear from you again.

  3. Gary Slabaugh
    January 30, 2014

    Hi Jenna. Always a pleasure to bask in your insights. Also a great pleasure to get the point of view of an authentic Anima. You seem deeply mystical. Being a male of the Bull persuasion, I’m quite grounded. But both you and I love the soul. I love the idea of a healthy soul being in Truth. Here is a copy of my thoughts on soul today. Maybe they dovetail with yours. Perhaps not. The Way of the creative process is not always easy to discern.
    I am under the impression that critical analysis has real merit. One of the driving principles of critical thinking skills is the ability to question one’s assumptions. I think that it’s been undermined by the driving principle to unfavorably judge the assumptions of others. Both in balance works for me. No man is an island, seems to be a fundamental truth. What we believe as a result of abstract conceptualization is open to a wide range of interpretation and those beliefs were not brought into personal and individual existence in isolation. Our thoughts are related to the thoughts of others who have influenced us for good or ill. Hopefully the drive for truth (pure unadulterated truth as my numen – my guiding principle, force, or spirit) is a powerful motivator to keep me feeling and questioning and criticizing analytically and not just take complex abstract concepts for granted. There are some great social critics of whom I think highly. George Carlin. H.L. Mencken. Ambrose Bierce. I like this guy I’m reading now. His is an attack on the unthinking beliefs of thinking people. Pretty current stuff too. Unpalatable for most. Appropriate for our suicidally dysfunctional society – abandoning the principles of liberty by giving political and economic power to plutocrats and the central state. Abandoning biophilia in favor of growth for growth’s sake. (The programming for a cancer cell, no?) Propaganda has done its work all to well. I prefer prescience.

    • Jenna Lilla
      January 30, 2014

      How wonderful Gary… a call for truth, for ‘pure unadulterated truth as my numen – my guiding principle, force, or spirit’. I heed your call for thought, for analysis, for biophilia, for constructive change. Thank you for taking the time to think this through here on this blog. Always a pleasure…

  4. japhy
    January 31, 2014

    Thank You! Everyday I’ve made a point to see if you’ve posted anything, as the days wore on an anxiety grew. Your insights and perspective are always a welcome sight. Thanks again, just wanted to let you know you were missed.

    • Jenna Lilla
      January 31, 2014


      What a sweet comment. Thank you for sharing your Self with me. It is wondrous, as a writer I can intuit the anxiety building in my ‘other half:’ my readers. There is no connection, no (pro)creation, without both of us, both sides. And yet, whatever I might of said would have been somehow false without some time to make contact with the instinctual forces of my own soul. Thank you for giving me the time.

  5. Brian Friend
    February 1, 2014

    This is my 1st time commenting. I really like your blog and I think I am beginning to understand what you saying about a connection to the soul. You say that this path is known by the “archetypal symbolism”. So we can know the soul through this symbolism. Is that correct?

    • Jenna Lilla
      February 1, 2014

      Welcome and thank you for your comment.
      Yes, we can know the soul through archetypal symbolism– as it appears in dreams, imagination, art. I look forward to hearing from you again.

  6. Reza
    February 2, 2014

    I can’t wait reading more on this subject. It might sounds weird but some thing is telling me that in this path you might come across “the green one “, khidr whom in Sufism is an important leading figure toward the world of unknown that is rolled by the low of “nonsense”.
    Thanks for sharing your thought with us,

    • Jenna Lilla
      February 2, 2014

      Welcome Reza,
      I am delighted that you have found your way here, and that you are interested in the wondrous angel Khidr.
      I have indeed come across Khidr. I wrote about this image as the Angel of the Mystics and as a Symbol of the Self.

  7. Rob Two-Hawks
    February 3, 2014

    Jenna…So glad you’re back.It appears we’ve both been exploring similar hidden spaces & themes.During a most welcome quietude inside the dark night I’m pondering the mystery of ”instinct” as it relates to the Self.Meanwhile,you explore the ”capacity to tolerate the ambiguities and think the unassimilable spaces” as a path of Soul.And,we’re both sensing that unless there’s a wider collective connection to this instinct/Soul path the destruction of the species is possible.I’m looking forward to your upcoming look at myths and stories read and perceived with the hidden/unknown in mind.That was the spirit in which they were initiatorily experienced and then written…so this will be a rewarding adventure.

    • Jenna Lilla
      February 3, 2014


      I am so delighted to hear from you, as always. Thanks for your understanding in regards to my ‘quietude.’ And thank you also for your keen insight into my interests. I am happy to hear that you found yourself deep in the mystery– contemplating the instincts of the Self. What a beautiful way to spend this wild winter.

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